Friends... How Far Would U Go For Them?


I have a friend, let's call her N, who is close to a girl named S. S would frequently sleep over at N's place. In fact, they're pretty much like a family. S leads a kinda lonely life. Her mum died when she was young & her dad is always overseas. So S lives with her sis.

Pityful, u may say? Yes. But... S has a major problem.

S wants everything to go her own way :S.

They would fight & argue over da smallest things (even a missing bra, lol). And S doesn't seem to like da fact that N is very popular & that she has a lot more friends than she does. True, S is prettier. But she is lonely, in family life & even friends... lack of them, that is. S doesn't like it when N wants to go out with her own circle of friends. She would accuse N of neglecting her (altho N went all da way for her in everything) & placing her importance of her friends', rather than herself. N told me this problem herself. She's stressed that she can't make S any happier even though she has done her best :(.

So I asked her, what made her stuck with S although she's a stick in da mud?? N told me it's becos she felt S is lonely & she pities her. Unlike S, N has a complete & a happy family...

This is what we call, psychological warfare. When pple know that they're still wanted after getting away with murder, they will push their luck even further. Like S, for example. Most of da times it's her fault in their fights. But she wouldn't apologise. In fact N will go out of da way to please her. Da last time they fought, N even sent her food to her workplace & even bought her some white gold jewellery as a gift. And that wasn't da first time she tried pleasing S after their fights, no matter who's in da wrong. But S sarcastically called N back, saying she didn't need those things & that there was no need for N to please her. I'm appalled by this strange & selfish behaviour. Shouldn't we all be grateful if we have such godsent friends?

When must one draw da line when dealing with such friends?

Friends should be there for one another. Friends should encourage, not criticise (although good criticisation is sometimes good when u wanna make them realise a grave mistake). Friends should appreciate one another, not treat one another for granted. But this is what S is doing now. And it's driving all her friends away. But only N sticks it through with her, & she still treats her like trash. How can this be problem be rectified?

Stop treating ur friend as if they're really wanted cos they will never learn if u continue to treat her like a king/queen. U're not helping at all. Everytime u had an arguement, they will always have the impression that they are right & u are always in da wrong if u continue to try to please them when they don't even deserve all that pampering.If u have such friends rite now, I'm sorry to say this, but u should stop being da bootlicker. Lie low for a few days, let them think of da wrong that they did AND let them call u, not the other way round. Apologise constructively; always know what u're apologising for. There's no use apologising for something which is not even ur fault all da time. If all these fails & they still don't realise what a good friend u have been, then it's too bad... this friendship may have reached wayy past it's expiry date.

Oh, by da way, I had a bestfriend of 8 years who kind of treated me da same way. Wrote about her in ma Xanga blog before.

Not braggin'... but I dumped her.

I'm a simple person. End of story *shrugs*


Gotta give ma hunney bear a massage now after a long day at work. Won't want him to feel neglected :) .

Missed by Anna... ♥
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